Thursday, August 12, 2010

RIHANNA - Fails Victims of Domestic Violence—Encourages DV-Fails as An honorary Ambassador for Culture and Youth to Barbados- a Role Model for young girls everywhere- Fails her Self

Rihanna an honorary ambassador for culture and youth by her native Caribbean island of Barbados. Has failed. Our Youth her peers and our daughters--- daughters--with her new song and video –”I like the way you Lie’

I have heard this on the radio – its catchy- as all this very talented young woman's songs are---only yesterday did I see the video—and I as a survivor (like over half the country are) am saddened deeply that Rihanna would choose this way of in her words “an anti violence video’ in order to heal.

I can safely say that as a mother of a beautiful 15 year old daughterwho loves this very talented singer --I am mortified. Terrified of the fall out from this new song.

Rihanna, when you were in the center of your crisis when the media turned its back on you- mothers like my self pushed hard to get organizations to take a stand beside you—with our love for you and for all the daughters you represent we got that support for you.

And now, you put this out? It is popular—gaining in popularity—and sadly so are the murder-suicides—so is the domestic violence— and so many do actually burn - I dont think that those women ‘liked the way it hurt’

I implore you to step back and look at this from a survivors view—that's ok—you need to- and do a music video that would better serve you-- as Ambassador to Barbados—your influence on youth and most importantly for your self—

You are better than that you deserve much better.- So do all our daughters.

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Is Rihanna glorifying domestic violence? Victim stars in controversial Emimem music video

Rihanna knows first hand the horrors of domestic violence, after being badly beaten by her then-boyfriend Chris Brown.

The 22-year-old tried to use the awful experience for good, speaking out and encouraging abused women to leave their partners.

But the pop star is now being criticised for starring in a controversial music video which some say glorifies domestic violence. Revealing: Rihanna's plunging black top leaves little to the imagination in the new video

Controversial? Rihanna stars in the video for Enimem's track Love the Way You Lie, which has been criticised for glorifying domestic violence

Eminem's chart-topping Love the Way You Lie graphically depicts a physically abusive relationship.

The rapper, known for his turbulent relationship with ex-wife Kim Mathers - his song, Kim, graphically fantasized about murdering her - has said he enlisted Rihanna because she was the perfect person to pull the song off.

In the song Eminem raps: 'If she ever tries to f****** leave me again, I'm a tie her to the bed and set this house on fire.'

Rihanna sings the chorus: 'Just gonna stand there and watch me burn. But that's all right because I like the way it hurts.'

Controversial: The video tells the story of a couple who are struggling with their relationship and domestic abuse

Abuse: The video tells the story of a couple who are struggling with their relationship

Scream: Dominic and Megan both got into the filming of the video, and are seen screaming and shouting throughout

Anger: Dominic Monaghan's character threatens to 'tie her to the bed and set this house on fire' if his girlfriend ever tries to leave

The girl, played by Megan Fox, tries to leave but her boyfriend, Dominic Monaghan, promises it won't happen again. But then he admits he's lying: 'I apologize even though I know it's lies.'

Rihanna herself has been quoted as saying the song 'was something that needed to be done and the way he [Eminem] did it was so clever.

'He pretty much just broke down the cycle of domestic violence.'

But many disagree.

Tough day at the office: Dominic Monaghan described kissing Megan Fox in the video clip for Love The Way You Lie as just 'work'

Tough day at the office: Dominic Monaghan described kissing Megan Fox in the video clip for Love The Way You Lie as just 'work'

Terry O'Neill, president of the National Organization for Women thinks Rihanna is unwittingly glorifying domestic violence.

'She's narrating the story, and she's not judging it,' says O'Neill. 'And so she may not intend to be glorifying it, but she is.'

Marjorie Gilberg, executive director of anti-violence group Break the Cycle, agreed.

'The danger is that pop culture defines our social norms,' she told the AP.

'We don't want the message of this song to be that this kind of relationship is acceptable.

'So this song has to be viewed in the context of real information from adults, like parents and teachers.'

Hit song: Eminem and Rihanna's track Love the Way You Lie has topped the US charts for the third week

Hit song: Eminem and Rihanna's track Love the Way You Lie has topped the US charts for the third week

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-1301058/Is-Rihanna-glorifying-domestic-violence-Victim-stars-controversial-Emimem-music-video.html?ito=feeds-newsxml#ixzz0wOvwnsEW